Life is better understood in reverse. I read that somewhere recently and I couldn't agree more. It seems rather odd that we must live life before we gain understanding even when we have attempted to be wise and prudent. My life has not been very much like I expected it to be four decades ago. But as I look back I see it more clearly.
One of the pleasant results of going through times of difficulty is that I know at this stage of the game that the hard events will grow me as a person if I chose to let them. They grew me during those times I chose to suck it in rather than follow the path of self-pity or giving into a spirit of the whine.
Looking in the review mirror, I can see that taking the high road has always been the better option. This has been true even when it may have looked like something different to others weighing in on the subject. We all make mistakes and we all do foolish things at times. I don't like it when I'm a fool. It can be wasted effort when I head a wrong direction with something. However, every day one makes new choices and purposes how to use the next twelve hours--for the good, better, or best.
In spiritual living, the person ends the day by looking back at how they used the day. My Pastor says to look for where God is in what we do and in what problems we face, in each and every situation. Was God in this? I think that's advice to pay attention to.